Thursday, December 20, 2012

Baby Maybe?

So this is our big debut! My wife and I have been together four years and finally tied the knot in August. We have talked about starting a family for over a year, but with both of us in school it never seemed like the right time. Now that we have both finished and have jobs with our feet firmly set on the ground, we have decided to take that next step.  My partner Bud (a loving nickname short for Rosebud) and I had no clue where to begin. I posted a couple of times on our local lezzie group page to see if anyone had advice/suggestions. NOT A SINGLE RESPONSE.  I was sad and disappointed. I was really hoping to find support from local families that were going through the same thing.  I feel as if there is a secret community we don't know about. We finally met another lesbian couple(fast forward 6 months) that was going through IUI and were more than willing to share their ups and downs.

We set up an appointment in October to visit their clinic and went to a free seminar. We were the only same sex couple. After the seminar we met with the staff, who were more than friendly to us and made us feel at home.   I must admit though, at first it felt a bit like when I bought my first car and was signing papers willy nilly.  We made an appointment to come in for an evaluation that next week. We met with the doctor (forgive me and my layman terms and lack of IVF abbreviations-i'll catch on soon enough) and it was a whirlwind of an appointment. She started right in on IUI without us getting a word in. When she finally finished, I softly whispered "what about IVF?" For some reason I thought we would have to start with IUI and IVF wouldn't even be an option yet. However, she was more than excited we were ready to jump right in. She even suggested that we do reciprocal IVF! I was sooo happy. We have decided to wait until the March 2013 cycle to start but will be getting tests and workups starting in January. Since I am the carrier, I will do a mock transfer in January and Bud (donor) will start the retrieval process in March.

 I started BC this month and it feels so strange to think that the process of having a baby for us begins with taking pills to prevent babies. I gotta tell ya that this whole thing is overwhelming. I was trying to read a blog and couldn't get through it without having to stop to look up DP, RE,  &POAS! I had no clue that it was so serious! I am going to attempt to reach out to as many of you as I can because we have no idea what we are doing and would just love as much suppport as possible through this journey. I look forward to sharing with you and hopefully by the end of all of this, help another couple that might feel like they are just as in the dark as we are.