Thursday, July 4, 2013

Denied

With all that happened last week with DOMA and Cali,  I was feeling hopeful but the victory is definitely bittersweet. I live in SC and we will not be reaping any of the benefits of these rulings. It really just motivates us more to move after the babies come. We applied for R's name change in March. It was a process! We hired a lawyer because she was already working on our custody paper so we figured why not? She had to submit to two background checks, one from DSS and one from SLED to prove she's not a child molester, not an illegal alien, and not evading taxes or child support somewhere.  She had to get fingerprinted and then we had to pay court fees and file a petition. Well, after all that, we were denied! The judge has requested a hearing and we must appear in court in 2 weeks. Annoyed does not even cover it. It just gets exhausting to have to ask for permission and approval for every little effing thing. I don't know what to expect or why they want to see us in person but we have one more chance and I hope it goes through the second time around.

The babes are doing well. They are 14 weeks 2 days today! I still haven't gained any weight but I am getting a little bump I think! (The pic below is 2 weeks ago) We bought a dresser that will double as the changing table and are making s.l.o.w. progress on their room.  We find out the sex in two weeks! Pretty stinking excited. I put the doppler away because it was causing more worry than not. Afternoon sickness is still here but I am getting my energy back. Also my chichis are getting huge ( I was already a 38DD) and am going to need a maternity bra soon. Recommendations for a comfortable underwire would be appreciated!!! We still have no clue what we are going to do about daycare but I think one of us will have to go to dayshift. (wah wah wah)

Hope everyone is well in blogland and am looking forward to following some new journeys and hope those enduring TWW's see some BFP's soon!!

Awesome Craigslist find! 



12 comments:

  1. I will be so glad when our "rights" are not based on where we live! Ugh! Anyway, you look great and I'm happy to hear things are progressing well.

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    1. You and me both! We are staying positive
      It will go through the second time!

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  2. I'm glad to hear that the babies are doing well and kudos on your Craigslist find! That dresser is gorgeous! I totally cracked up when I read "chichis", lol. We use that word too but I never hear anyone outside of NM us it, ha. ;)

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    1. My mom has always referred to our lady parts as chichis ;) I think it's a perfect name!

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  3. That sucks about the DOMA stuff, we only got benefits from it here in Arkansas because Tommie works for the VA so she's a federal employee - I get her health insurance and all that but not the WHOLE lot of benefits to my knowledge that say Cali residents get. That is an awesome find on craigslist! My brother finds amazing stuff on there it's insane!!!!!

    Keep us updated on the adoption stuff, we were going to challenge it here with our son but decided to do some legal paperwork instead since we figured we would be denied like ya'll were after all was said and done and we spent tons of money and were left with nothing! We are 7 wks and when this one is born we are going to challenge the law, we are also involved in a lawsuit in Arkansas challenging the constitutional amendment here in AR that marriage is between a man and a woman so hopefully we win!!!

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    1. I will definitely keep you posted! Good luck with all that in Arkansas-I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts!

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  4. I hate that we not have equal rights everywhere. I won't even start on this topic as it hurts me we even have to go though this BS!

    Anyways, you are looking fantastic!! I can't believe time is flying by so fast!

    BTW I LOVE that dresser! So beautiful!!

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  5. Hey! I nominated you for a Leibster Award because I freaking love your blog and others should too!

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  6. Hey! I nominated you for a Leibster Award because I love your blog and others should too!

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  7. Nominated your blog for a Liebster award!

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